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Social Skills Books

Gregory Peart, M.Ed.

This book claims the title of Best Small Talk Book and is one of my favorite new books, so you'll notice it made the Best New Books as well. It's obvious Greg's done his research, and claims he has been studying social skills for over 15 years. He is meticulous and specific with each technique, blowing away every other book when it comes to real-life examples and applications. 

 

He regularly provides examples of what to do and what not to do. Might be a little dense for some, but it's perfect for someone who wants a lot of specifics and little fluff. 

 

The Small Talk Code

The Secrets of Highly Successful Conversationalists

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Dale Carnegie

 

Written 80 years ago, Carnegie’s book holds up so well that today it’s regarded as one of the most seminal and best books on social skills ever written. Multiple new editions have been released by Carnegie’s estate since the original, but the book’s bread and butter is the fact that his original advice, though anecdotal, stands the test of time.

Carnegie breaks the book into sections that sound like manna from heaven to guys who want to strengthen their social skills: “Six Ways to Make People Like You,” and “Fundamental Techniques for Handling People” among them.

This one’s an absolute must-read.

How to Win Friends and Influence People

Leil Lowndes

This is one of the best books on social skills because it’s one of the few books whose subtitle, “92 Little Tricks for Big Success in Relationships,” actually delivers—it’s probably done more to improve my social success than any other resource.

When I was considering reading it, I checked out the Amazon reviews and was sold when I read, “This book can make you into a special person.”

How to Talk to Anyone

Liel Lowndes

 

At this point I know what you’re thinking, but I swear: I am neither the heir to Leil Lowndes’ estate, nor her scandalously young lover. I just think her books are really helpful!

Possible May-December romances aside, this one is similar in structure to How to Talk to Anyone, but its techniques are a little more ninja.

 

Where How to Talk to Anyone is a great way to get conversations (and relationships) started, this one helps you take them to the next level.

How to Instantly Connect with Anyone

Ian Tuhovsky

 

Simple, informative, and practical. If you are looking for a book that will help you communicate with others in various areas of your life then this is the right book for you!

 

The language in the book is easy to read and jumps right into the material to get you started to improving your communication skills. The material written in this book is not a "do these simple tricks and your life will alter forever" but rather gives you the foundation and techniques as well as insights of how communication works to help better your skills. 

Communication Skills Training

Don Gabor

 

Don't be deceived by its simplicity and easy to read form: it contains a lot of information including many important subtleties that other books lack, including many books twice as long.

 

The book does exactly what it says in the title: it takes the reader through the process of how to start conversations and make friends. It doesn't make blanket statements like other books do, that in the real world could be disastrous. He explains, in simple but true and useful terms, how conversations start, why some ways of starting a conversation are more risky than others, how to continue a conversation, and so on. 

How to Start a Conversation and Make Friends

Daniel Wendler

 

This book could just as well be entitled: The Thinking Person’s Guide to Improving Your Social Skills. I say that because of the methodical, thoughtful and flowing way the author guides us through the complex maze of social interactions in which we find ourselves.

One part of the book speaks to gauging the “energy level” of the person or group that you are entering into a conversation with. This is something I hadn’t thought of before, but is going to become an important part of my own process of entering into conversations and relationships.

Finally, the chapters on meeting new friends and how to decide if those friendships are going to be healthy, along with how to maintain and nurture those relationships was the most satisfying to me personally. 

How to Improve Your Social Skills

Dianna Booher

 

This books wins the prize for having the most techniques all in one book. It's the opposite of Dale Carnegie's books - tons of specific techniques and little anecdotes.

 

Some of you may feel like it reads more like a training manual, but some of you may also prefer that level of detail (like I do!) 

Communicate with Confidence!

Debra Fine

 

Another good - or should I saw "fine" book for those looking for specific examples. The examples are mostly dated and may not all apply to younger audiences, but hey, they're still useful. This is why I listed this book at the bottom of this list - still useful, but there are better books out there.

The Fine Art of Small Talk

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